Kim Anami knows a thing or two about orgasms. The holistic sex and relationship expert has had years of experience working with women, helping them tap into their sexual power and energy. “In marriages and relationships all over the world, women are suffering from not having enough sex,” says Anami.
Why is this a problem? Anami believes that when women are unsatisfied in the bedroom, they’re likely unsatisfied in other aspects of their lives. For this sexual health expert, the best way to get back in flow in your life is to start having more orgasms.
Easier said than done. For many women, though, that body-shaking, earth-shattering, mind-blowing full-body orgasm is very difficult to achieve. According to Planned Parenthood, one in three women have a hard time reaching orgasm during sex. And as many as 80 per cent of women have difficulty with orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone.
According to Anami, every woman has the potential for orgasm from different types of stimulation. Even if you’ve never reached climax through vaginal intercourse, that doesn’t mean it can’t happen for you—it just means that you might need a little more foreplay time, or to trust your body a little more. The average woman needs about 35 minutes of foreplay and stimulation before she is considered completely aroused and ready for sex—and when you’re completely aroused, you’re far more likely to reach orgasm!
Another surprising fact from Anami? Women should have an orgasm virtually every day. I know what you’re thinking: “I’m lucky if I have one a few times a week!” Regular orgasms actually keep the reproductive system healthy and can help balance hormones. Think about it like exercise for your lady parts—regular exercise keeps you healthy, fit, and vital for longer. That’s exactly how you want your sex life to be!
Finally, Anami believes that women shouldn’t cut themselves off after just one orgasm. After all, what’s the fun in that? Keep reading to check out more of the sex expert’s tools and tips for better sex.
The 5 Laws of Female Orgasm:
1. Every woman, every orgasm
Every woman can have every single type of orgasm: G-spot, cervical, nipple and more.
2. One is never enough
Women are naturally voracious and multi-orgasmic. They reach their highest sexual, creative and human potential with plenty of orgasms.
3. An orgasm a day
Daily pleasure lubricates everything. When you are connected to your sexuality and own it, you are more powerful in life, love and career.
4. Go deep
The good stuff is in the vagina. The cataclysmic, life-changing orgasms are all the way up inside. Go there.
5. Let it go
The game-changing factor that separates the girls from the women (or the clitorial from the vaginal orgasms) is the ability to open up, drop your guard and surrender.
